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Since childhood, I have dealt with hateful critics.   Unfortunately, many of these haters were family members and close friends, so I took their hateful comments to heart.  Unbeknownst to me, their sole mission was to destroy my self-esteem so I would ruin my incarnation.  It wasn’t until I learned how to protect my peace that I obtained the power to live a fruitful and fulfilled life.

WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR PEACE

Set Boundaries

Clearly define what kind of feedback you are willing to accept and from whom. This helps you filter out unnecessary negativity.

Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself. Understand that everyone makes mistakes, and that criticism is often more about the critic than about you.

Limit Exposure

If certain platforms or people are particularly critical, limit your exposure to them. This might mean taking breaks from social media or avoiding certain conversations.

Seek Constructive Feedback

Surround yourself with people who provide constructive, rather than destructive, feedback. Constructive feedback is aimed at helping you improve, not tearing you down.

Develop a Support System

Build a network of friends, family, or professionals who can offer you support and encouragement.

Focus on Your Strengths

Remind yourself of your achievements and strengths. Keep a journal of positive feedback and accomplishments to revisit when you’re feeling down.

Mindfulness and Meditation

 Practice mindfulness and meditation to help manage stress and maintain a balanced perspective.

Engage in Hobbies

Spend time doing activities you enjoy and that makes you feel good about yourself. This can help you maintain a positive outlook.

Reframe Criticism

Try to see criticism as an opportunity for growth rather than a personal attack. This can help you take a more objective view and reduce its emotional impact.

Professional Help

If criticism is significantly affecting your mental health, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. They can provide strategies and support tailored to your needs. 

I encourage you to schedule a one-on-one session with me.  I would love to assist you on your healing journey.

When people hear about abusive controlling relationships, they often ask, “Why doesn’t she just leave?” or “How did he allow himself to end up in that situation?” 

In the beginning of a relationship, the abuser starts off with a subtle controlling behavior that is often misinterpreted as love.  This is especially true if the victim came from a family where they received little attention or affection.  The partner’s constant monitoring may seem enduring and pleasant, simply because you don’t know the characteristics of a healthy, loving relationship.  As time passes, you will find yourself in an abusive relationship with no way to escape.  

It is important to know the signs of control early in a relationship, as it can help you identify unhealthy behaviors and avoid potentially abusive situations.