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Monitoring Spirits

October 6, 2024October 6, 2024 by Auset, posted in Metaphysical Spirituality

Do you often fail at tasks or goals you set? Do you feel like there is something or someone stopping your blessings? You may have monitoring spirits.

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What are Monitoring Spirits?

Monitoring spirits are malevolent entities or spirits that observe and gather information about individuals, often with the intent to cause harm or influence negatively. These spirits can interfere with a person’s life by exploiting weaknesses or influencing decisions. They often come as animals but may also inhabit people.

The internet has opened a gateway for these entities to thrive as they can create dummy accounts and relentlessly torment their victims.

Signs a Monitoring Spirit is Present

1. Unexplained Feelings of Being Watched: A persistent sensation that someone or something is observing you, even when you’re alone.

2. Recurrent Nightmares: Frequent disturbing dreams that seem to have a common theme or presence.

3. Unusual Animal Appearances: Seeing animals, like birds or insects, behaving strangely or appearing frequently in unusual places.

4. Sudden Negative Changes in Mood or Energy: Experiencing abrupt shifts in mood or energy levels without an apparent cause.

5. Electronic Disturbances: Gadgets or electronics malfunctioning or behaving erratically without a technical explanation.

6. Hearing Voices or Whispers: Perceiving voices or whispers when no one else is around.

7. Feeling Drained or Fatigued: Persistent tiredness or feeling drained despite adequate rest.

8. Unexplained Bad Luck or Misfortune: A series of unfortunate events or bad luck that seems to have no logical explanation.

9. Intuition or Gut Feelings: A strong intuitive sense that something is not right or that you’re being monitored.

10. Spiritual or Religious Signs: Receiving signs or messages through spiritual or religious practices that suggest monitoring.

Protection from Monitoring Spirits

Although you may feel powerless in this situation, there are ways to protect yourself from monitoring spirits. Our ancestors were familiar with these entities and protective remedies to deal with them.

1. Prayer and Meditation: Prayer or meditation can help you get protection and peace. This can involve asking for guidance or protection from a higher power.

2. Spiritual Cleansing: Practices such as smudging with sage, using holy water, or other forms of spiritual cleansing to ward off negative energies or spirits.

3. Protective Symbols and Talismans: Wearing or displaying symbols or objects believed to have protective properties, such as crosses, crystals, or other talismans, is common in various traditions.

4. Setting Boundaries: Setting spiritual boundaries through visualization techniques, such as imagining a protective light surrounding them.

5. Consulting Spiritual Leaders: Seeking advice or assistance from spiritual leaders, such as priests, shamans, or other religious figures, can provide guidance and support.

6. Positive Energy and Intentions: Focusing on maintaining a positive mindset and surrounding oneself with positive energy and intentions will help repel negative influences.

7. Rituals and Ceremonies: Engaging in specific rituals or ceremonies designed to protect against or banish unwanted spirits is a practice in many cultures.

If you believe you have monitoring spirits following you, I can help! Check out my on-demand spiritual protection course and schedule a one-on-one session with me today. Let me assist you with banishing these entities from your life.

The Forsaken

September 7, 2024September 7, 2024 by Auset, posted in Positive Thinking

You are not part of the family you were born into. The jealous women within your biological family have tried to destroy you on numerous occasions because they know who you are and your divine destiny.

Their hateful ways ruined the family’s dynamic. Instead of uplifting and encouraging you, they attempted to destroy you. Currently, you are experiencing many life-changing events. Although this is a normal occurrence, your demonic family members are gloating as they secretly wish for your destruction. They blame your current situation on your bloodline, associating it with failure and hate.

Instead of trying to improve the family’s situation, they fostered chaos and division. They knew at birth that your energy did not originate from their lineage. So, they excluded you. The seclusion you experienced was intentional. They behaved in treacherous ways in hopes you would self-destruct.

While you suffered, they sat back in delight and called themselves family. Their jealousy encouraged them to partner with outsiders to destroy you. This envy that they harbor runs deep and they regret that their evil deeds have not fully destroyed you. Your very existence fuels their hatred.

Despite their torment, you have beaten every odd. You survived situations that were intended to end your life.

Chosen one, you overcame every obstacle!

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At this moment in time, you need to release them and over-stand that you are NOT A MEMBER OF YOUR BIOLOGICAL FAMILY. Their actions have made this very clear. Their treatment and how they interact with you reeks of extreme resentment. Given the opportunity, they will destroy you and move on with their lives as if nothing has happened, continuing to delight in your suffering.

Wake up and understand that life changes happen to everyone but there is no excuse for anyone to be mistreated. There is nothing you could have done differently to change the course of your life. You did the best you could with the hand you were dealt.

From a cosmic perspective YOU BEAT THE GAME!

Focus on your own well-being and do not waste energy on people who will NEVER change. You have been hurting for years due to the constant mistreatment of your narcissistic family members. Those who should have protected you and shown you love delighted in causing havoc in your life.

When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me. Psalms 27:10

The spirit said “I will love you. I will protect you. I will provide for you.” Spirit will bring you everything you need to not only survive but to thrive in this lifetime.

Your life is NOT over, it is just beginning!

2024 Presidential Election: A Battle Between Patriarchy and the Divine Feminine

August 1, 2024August 1, 2024 by Auset, posted in Metaphysical Spirituality

The Patriarchal system is fighting to maintain control over the incoming divine feminine energy. This cosmic battle has trickled down into our physical reality for all to see in the 2024 presidential election. This metaphysical truth becomes undeniable when you analyze the names of our two top presidential candidates, Donald and Kamala.

Trump represents the current system that has dominated the world. That’s why his first name, Donald, means “ruler of the world” or “world mighty.” It was derived from Celti words dumno, meaning “world” and val, meaning “rule.” He is running on the slogan, “Make America Great Again.” He is the personification of patriarchy. His wealth, lustful deeds, domineering nature coupled with the vast number of racist supporters is the embodiment of the ruling spirit that conquered the globe.

His competitor, Kamala, represents the divine feminine. Kamala means “she of the lotus” and was the last in the list of the Ten Mahavidyas (great revelations or manifestations), who are a group of Tantric goddesses. The goddess is portrayed as favorable and beautiful, with a lovely golden complexion. She sits in a lotus posture on top of a lotus flower. The goddess has four hands—two holding lotuses and two held in signs of granting blessings and giving assurance. People consider Kamala and Sri Lakshmi to be the same goddess.

There is an ancient tale of this battle between the current patriarchal system and the divine feminine called The Churning of the Milky Ocean.

According to the story, the warrior god Indra had the task of protecting the world from demons that had long sought to destroy it, and with the help of Lakshmi (Kamala), he successfully accomplished this for many years.

One day, he was gifted a garland of sacred flowers by a wise sage, displeased by the gift Indra threw the flowers away in a show of arrogance. Lakshmi (Kamala) who had been observing this interaction was angered by his arrogance and rudeness and decided to leave the world of the god and enter into the Milky Ocean as punishment.

Without her power as the goddess of success and fortune, the gods lost their blessings and demons began seeping into the world, causing everything to grow darker, people to become greedier, and the gods to be ignored.

As time went on, the gods began to lose their power. Indra came to Vishnu and begged for his help. Vishnu instructed Indra that he and the other gods must churn the Milky Ocean to return Lakshmi (Kamala) to the surface and gain her favor again.

In the Ocean’s depth also lay many treasures, such as the elixir of life and a potion to bestow immortality. These would all help them to rid the world of demons and restore balance. For over 1,000 years, the gods worked together to churn the ocean for Lakshmi and the treasure with little luck.

Finally, Lakshmi (Kamala) arose to the surface as a beautiful woman standing on a lotus flower along with all the treasure they had sought. With her help and power, the gods could finally defeat the demons that had infested our world and push them back into darkness.

I am curious to see if the Establishment will allow the divine feminine to rule again OR if they are using this election as a global ritual to continue to suppress her energy.

Only time will tell…

Self-Love is Divine Love

July 20, 2024July 21, 2024 by Auset, posted in Metaphysical Spirituality, Positive Thinking

Although the word love is used by everyone, very few people know what it means. Men use it to gain the trust of women so they can have sexual access to their bodies. Women use it to validate their long-term committed servitude in the institution of marriage. Teens use it to validate their racing hormones. By biblical definition, very few people have truly loved anyone.

According to 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. This is the definition of true love.

Let’s inspect the aspects of divine love.

Patience is the ability to endure difficult circumstances, such as delay, provocation, or suffering without becoming annoyed or upset. It involves self-control and the capacity to wait for something without getting agitated. Patience is often considered a virtue and is associated with qualities like perseverance, tolerance, and calmness. It can be particularly important in situations where immediate results are not possible, and it requires a long-term perspective.

Kind is an adjective that describes someone who is friendly, generous, and considerate. A kind person often shows concern for others and acts in a way that benefits them, often without expecting anything in return. For example, helping a neighbor carry grocery, offering a listening ear to a friend in need, or simply smiling at a stranger can all be considered acts of kindness. The concept of kindness is often associated with empathy, compassion, and altruism.

Love Rejoices at Truth

Truth is a noun that refers to the quality or state of being in accordance with fact or reality. It is the property of being in accord with what is real or factual. Truth can also refer to a statement or belief that accurately reflects the world as it is. In philosophy, truth is a central concept and is often discussed in terms of theories such as correspondence, coherence, and pragmatism.

Love does NOT Rejoice at Wrongdoing

Wrongdoing is a noun that refers to behavior or actions that are illegal, immoral, or unethical. It encompasses a wide range of activities that violate laws, social norms, or moral principles. Examples of wrongdoing include theft, fraud, lying, and cheating.

What love is NOT:

Arrogance is a noun that describes an attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions. An arrogant person often believes they are better, more important, or more knowledgeable than others, and they may act in a way that dismisses or belittles others’ opinions or contributions. This trait is viewed negatively, as it can lead to conflicts and a lack of cooperation.

Rude is an adjective that describes behavior that is impolite or offensive. A rude person might interrupt others, use harsh language, or disregard social norms and etiquette. For example, talking loudly on a phone in a quiet place or not saying “please” and “thank you” can be considered rude actions.

Envy is a noun that refers to a feeling of discontent or covetousness regarding another’s advantages, success, possessions, or qualities. It can also be used as a verb to describe the act of feeling or expressing this discontent. For example, if someone is envious of their friend’s new car, they might feel a mix of admiration and resentment because they wish they had a similar car.

Boast is a verb that means to talk with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities. For example, someone might boast about winning a competition or having a luxurious car. It can also be used as a noun to refer to the act of boasting itself. For instance, “His boast about his new job annoyed everyone.”

Insist on your own way is a phrase that means to strongly demand or persist in having things done according to one’s own preferences or desires, often without considering others’ opinions or wishes. It implies a level of stubbornness or inflexibility in wanting things to go exactly as one wants. This behavior can sometimes lead to conflicts or disagreements, especially in collaborative or group settings.

By divine definition, I can honestly say most people will NEVER experience divine love in this lifetime! Especially if you desire to experience divine love with another person, I can assure you it will NEVER happen!

How do I know?

If God is divine love and he lives in heaven, and Jesus said, “Heaven is inside of you.” Then divine love can only occur within yourself. Others are incapable of bestowing this type of love upon you for a prolonged period of time. If you enter a marital relationship expecting to receive divine love from your spouse for the rest of your natural life, you will quickly discover the error in your lofty goal. This type of love can only exist within you. That’s why the divorce rate is so high.

Instead of wasting this incarnation trying to meet someone who will bestow true love upon you, it is more advantageous for you to focus on self-love. If you are patient, kind, and truthful with yourself, you would admit that you have not been loving yourself properly. Most of our problems stem from personal neglect. We spend more time trying to please others than properly caring for ourselves.

I challenge you to treat yourself in the manner you would treat your dream woman or man. Buy yourself an expensive dinner or nice jewelry. Run yourself a relaxing bubble bath, light candles, and lay roses along your own path.

To put you on the right track to cultivating divine love, I invite you to take my self-love course.

Self-love is divine love!

Protect Your Peace

July 16, 2024July 16, 2024 by Auset, posted in Uncategorized

Since childhood, I have dealt with hateful critics. Unfortunately, many of these haters were family members and close friends, so I took their hateful comments to heart. Unbeknownst to me, their sole mission was to destroy my self-esteem so I would ruin my incarnation. It wasn’t until I learned how to protect my peace that I obtained the power to live a fruitful and fulfilled life.

WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR PEACE

Set Boundaries

Clearly define what kind of feedback you are willing to accept and from whom. This helps you filter out unnecessary negativity.

Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself. Understand that everyone makes mistakes, and that criticism is often more about the critic than about you.

Limit Exposure

If certain platforms or people are particularly critical, limit your exposure to them. This might mean taking breaks from social media or avoiding certain conversations.

Seek Constructive Feedback

Surround yourself with people who provide constructive, rather than destructive, feedback. Constructive feedback is aimed at helping you improve, not tearing you down.

Develop a Support System

Build a network of friends, family, or professionals who can offer you support and encouragement.

Focus on Your Strengths

Remind yourself of your achievements and strengths. Keep a journal of positive feedback and accomplishments to revisit when you’re feeling down.

Mindfulness and Meditation

Practice mindfulness and meditation to help manage stress and maintain a balanced perspective.

Engage in Hobbies

Spend time doing activities you enjoy and that makes you feel good about yourself. This can help you maintain a positive outlook.

Reframe Criticism

Try to see criticism as an opportunity for growth rather than a personal attack. This can help you take a more objective view and reduce its emotional impact.

Professional Help

If criticism is significantly affecting your mental health, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. They can provide strategies and support tailored to your needs.

I encourage you to schedule a one-on-one session with me. I would love to assist you on your healing journey.

Transform Negative Energy into Creative Power

July 14, 2024July 14, 2024 by Auset, posted in Positive Thinking

A few years ago, I dedicated my efforts to growing the Golden Race. During this time, trolls targeted us daily and bombarded us with insults. Even though I wanted to give up, my pride motivated me to keep fighting this arduous battle.

I listened to Reverend Ike’s messages about “visualization” and “the eye of the mind” daily to push me forward. I kept visualizing my little group growing and our organization enlarging itself. I desired it to be worldwide! The harder I tried, the more people terminated their membership and (except for Tamara) the remaining members were unsuccessful at attracting new members. I started studying internet marketing, and I began to post beautiful pictures with links that led back to our website on various social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest.

One day this Internet troll popped up and wrote, “Instead of y’all sitting around posting stuff on Facebook everyday you need to get a job.” My first reaction was to smart off with him/her, but I paused to think. After much deliberation, I had to agree that I was, in fact, wasting my money and precious time doing this daily. Attempting to create something out of nothing was a waste of my energy. I am highly educated and possess numerous skills that could land me a wonderful career. So, I decided to revamp my resume and submit it to some employment websites.

Although I had not worked for a company in many years, this occurred during the pandemic; a time when companies were desperately seeking remote workers. In a few short weeks, I was contacted by a recruiter who found my resume. This discovery opened the door to an amazing career that changed my life forever! This opportunity allowed me to continue to work from home while making a sizable income.

If I did not listen to this Internet troll, I would probably still be trying to patch up a sinking ship, spending more money in marketing campaigns than I was earning. Instead, today I have health, dental, disability insurance, a matching 401K, and a host of other benefits. I can take trips, I have my own home, a new car, and everything I need to survive without the support of a husband.

clear glass pitcher filled with clear liquid and slices of lemon

WHEN LIFE GIVES YOU LEMONS, MAKE LEMONADE

Like this internet troll, people will come to you with advice that seems insulting, yet it can become beneficial if it is applied in the correct manner. A mastermind can take the negative energy thrown at them by haters and transform it into creative power! I am thankful for this insulting comment as it was a warning regarding how I spent my time and efforts.

If I had gotten into my flesh and rebuked this comment instead of analyzing it, I would still be in a role of servitude to an unfaithful spouse instead of experiencing the divine peace that comes with being the captain of my ship! Now I have protection, provision, and divine safety to ensure my spiritual and physical survival.

You may find yourself in a similar situation where people are saying all types of negative things to you. I encourage you to listen and analyze their advice and turn these lemons into lemonade that can feed your soul. The divinely anointed and chosen ones will ALWAYS succeed. Your success may not come the way you want it, but it will come! The spirit can work through so many avenues for you, but you must have sound wisdom.

When I was going through all those trials and tribulations trying to grow this program, I NEVER dreamed that someday soon my husband and I would separate. I had no idea all these events that led up to our separation were ever going to happen, but the SPIRIT knew. Therefore, it bought the financial stability I needed to survive without him. I encourage you to allow the SPIRIT to foresee your future, heed the warning, and KNOW that your steps are ordered.

Spiritual Unburdening

June 30, 2024June 30, 2024 by Auset, posted in Positive Thinking

For many years, I withheld my true feelings from people who delighted in verbally and physically abusing me. Raised as a Christian, I was taught to turn the other cheek, so I rarely reacted to hateful treatment from family, friends, and associates. This left me open to a good deal of health-related problems that could have easily been avoided if I had simply opened my mouth and responded in my defense.

Instead of verbally responding, I would often avoid the perpetrator by blocking their calls. This did not solve the issue because I replayed their abusive comments in my mind repeatedly. This led to low self-esteem and depression. I had to learn constructive ways to deal with the anger I harbored within my psyche. Anger is a natural response to abusive treatment, and long-term repression can lead to a premature death.

10 Negative Affects of Repressed Anger

1. Increased Stress Levels

Repressing anger can lead to chronic stress, which can negatively affect your overall health.

2. High Blood Pressure

Chronic anger and stress can contribute to hypertension, increasing the risk of heart disease.

3. Heart Disease

Repressed anger can lead to cardiovascular issues, including heart attacks and strokes.

4. Weakened Immune System

Chronic stress from repressed anger can weaken the immune system, making you more susceptible to illnesses.

5. Mental Health Issues

Repressed anger can contribute to anxiety, depression, and other mental health disorders.

6. Digestive Problems

Stress and anger can lead to gastrointestinal issues such as ulcers, irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), and acid reflux.

7. Sleep Disorders

Anger and stress can interfere with sleep patterns, leading to insomnia or poor-quality sleep.

8. Chronic Pain

Repressed anger can manifest as physical pain, such as headaches, back pain, or muscle tension.

9. Addiction

Some people may turn to substances like alcohol, drugs, or food to cope with repressed anger, leading to addiction.

10. Relationship Issues

Repressed anger can strain relationships, leading to conflicts, misunderstandings, and emotional distance.

It’s important to find healthy ways to express and manage anger to avoid these negative health impacts. As I dove deeper into spirituality, the Spirit showed me ways I could constructively manage and release the anger I harbored. Here are a few activities I engage in regularly.

Deep Breathing

I started practicing deep breathing exercises to calm my mind and body. Inhaling deeply through my nose, holding for a few seconds, and exhaling slowly through my mouth.

Physical Activity

I engaged in regular physical exercise like jogging, weightlifting, and taking brisk walks throughout the day. Physical activity has helped me reduce stress and anger.

Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness techniques and meditation helped me stay present and manage my emotions more effectively.

Creative Outlets

I channel my anger into creative activities like videography, writing, or playing music. These activities are very therapeutic and have helped me express my emotions constructively.

Time-Outs

I often take breaks from the situation that’s causing my anger. Taking a short walk or a few minutes of solitude has helped me cool down and gain perspective.

Humor

Sometimes, I find humor in a situation and that has worked to diffuse my anger. I watch a funny movie or read something that makes me laugh.

Set Boundaries

I have learned to say no and set boundaries to protect my time and energy. This has prevented situations that might lead to anger.

If you find it difficult to manage your anger on your own, consider scheduling a one-on-one consultation. I can provide you with strategies and support tailored to your needs.

Is it Love or Control?

June 8, 2024June 8, 2024 by Auset, posted in Uncategorized

When people hear about abusive controlling relationships, they often ask, “Why doesn’t she just leave?” or “How did he allow himself to end up in that situation?”

In the beginning of a relationship, the abuser starts off with a subtle controlling behavior that is often misinterpreted as love. This is especially true if the victim came from a family where they received little attention or affection. The partner’s constant monitoring may seem enduring and pleasant, simply because you don’t know the characteristics of a healthy, loving relationship. As time passes, you will find yourself in an abusive relationship with no way to escape.

It is important to know the signs of control early in a relationship, as it can help you identify unhealthy behaviors and avoid potentially abusive situations.

Signs of Controlling Behavior

MONITORING YOUR EVERY MOVE

If your significant other constantly asks you where you are going or have been and becomes upset if you refuse to disclose this information, this can a be sign of controlling behavior. With technology, it is very important that you carefully monitor your cellphone, laptop, and tablets, as abusers will often put tracking apps on your devices without your knowledge or consent. If your significant other is obsessed with your whereabouts, this is not love…they are controlling.

ISOLATING YOU FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY

Controlling abusers love to isolate their victims from their support system, making it harder for them to escape. They start by telling you your friends are backstabbers or are gossiping about you behind your back. They are quick to point out the shortcomings of your family members and encourage you to sever ties with them. However, they will continue to communicate with their family members even if they display the same toxic behaviors.

MAKING ALL THE DECISIONS

The controlling person will decide what you eat, wear, and engage in. They make ALL the decisions in your relationship and rarely will ask for your input. If you speak up to voice your opinion, it will often fall on deaf ears. This starts out subtly at first but will sprout into a one-sided dictatorship.

CONSTANTLY CRITICIZING YOU

Controlling abusers are very critical of others. They will comment on your hairstyle, clothes, and behavior. They must give their opinion, even if you do not ask for it.

USING THREATS OR INTIMIDATION TO GET THEIR WAY

Ultimatums are their forte! “If you do this, I will do that…” are their go-to rule of thumb to intimidate you into submission. They are masterminds at tricking you into thinking your action(s) are wrong and they are the level-headed one with all the “right” ideas concerning your relationship.

CONTROLLING YOUR FINANCES

As your relationship progresses, the controller will want to manage your finances. They will do this by encouraging you to quit your job so they can “take care of you,” or get a joint bank account with them for accountability. They may even secretly attempt to get you fired so they can control the money and income. Once they have control of the finances, you become their prisoner because you do not have the financial means to leave the relationship.

CONSTANTLY CHECKING UP ON YOU

Your partner calls and text several times during the day, especially if you are away from them. Initially, this may appear as if they are concerned, however, this behavior can quickly turn into stalking. The next thing you know, this person shows up at your job and in various places you visit without advanced notice.

NOT RESPECTING YOUR BOUNDARIES

If you have found your significant other reading your emails, diary, or text messages without your consent, they do not respect your boundaries. Everyone should have the right to confidential information. Your life should not be an open book for your partner to read whenever they want to.

Recognizing these signs early on can help you take steps to protect yourself and seek help if needed. It’s important to recognize these signs and address them in a healthy way. Understanding what constitutes control can also empower you to set boundaries and maintain a healthy relationship dynamic.

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde: The Narcissistic Husband

June 6, 2024June 6, 2024 by Auset, posted in Real Talk

As the scapegoat of a narcissistic parent, I unknowingly attracted parasitic friends and lovers into my life. To my surprise, my prince charming, who love bombed me in the initial stages of our manipulationship, turned out to be a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I quickly found myself trapped in a cycle of idealize, devalue, and discard. Lost in the upheaval of emotional and psychological abuse bestowed upon me by a man who I initially believed was my happily ever after left me empty.

I, the perfect victim, blinded by my need for approval and acceptance that I never received during my childhood. So lost in fact that I did not see ALL the red flags that are now so blatantly obvious as I look back on my 23 year prison sentence I termed a marriage. I was conditioned for eternal abuse at the hands of the person I thought I loved.

WHAT changed THE COURSE OF MY LIFE?

My two daughters, wise beyond their years, can be credited with freeing me from my cell. They told me my soon to be ex husband was in fact a narcissist. Like ice cold water running down a dry throat in a scorching desert, my youngest daughter’s words breathed life into my fatigued soul when she said, “Mommy, you deserve better.” It put me on a quest to find out the truth about the man I had devoted the rest of my life to. And this truth I found altered my future, as I have now separated from my estranged husband.

A relationship that began with a whirlwind of gifts, affection, and love bombing soon left me confused, as I found myself yoked to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Learning that the man I fell in love with never existed was soul shattering. To assist other scapegoats from making the same mistake, I am going to share 10 characteristics of a narcissistic partner.

10 SIGNS OF A NARCISSISTIC PARTNER

1. Constant need for admiration and validation

When I lived with my ex, I had to be very careful what I said to him. He wanted to be praised and admired all the time. If I made a comment that he took as criticism, he would get very upset and start an argument. So, I had to structure my sentences in such a way that I did not make him feel as if I were not showing him the utmost respect at all times in order to keep peace in our home.

2. Lack of empathy towards others

He was a very selfish man who did not like to share or give to others. I found pleasure in giving to others who were less fortunate, and he scolded me for doing so. During the holidays, I often bought gifts for family members and put both of our names on them. He would never give to the homeless. In fact, he delighted in the suffering of family members and friends.

3. Manipulative behavior to get what they want

He lied all the time. From the first day I met him, this man lied about his occupation, his sexual encounters, and everything else he thought he needed to in order to trap me. Throughout our marriage, I often caught him lying and taking things that didn’t belong to him. As long as he thought he could get away with this behaviour, he felt empowered to do so.

4. Grandiose sense of self-importance

This man believed he was the best looking person in the world. He was extremely vain and loved showing off his muscles. He had an over inflated ego that I found repugnant. He lacked humility.

5. Difficulty accepting criticism or feedback

Any type of feedback directed at him fell on deaf ears. He refused to listen to sound wisdom and guidance and often took advice as an assault against his perfection.

6. Sense of entitlement and expectation of special treatment

He thought he should have anything he wanted, regardless of the cost. He wanted the best of everything and would never consider the financial obligation. This led to excessive debts and unpaid bills. He purchased luxury cars and would take them to the car wash weekly. When he was there, he bossed around the workers commanding them to clean his car to perfection and would never leave a tip.

7. Tendency to exploit others for personal gain

Deception empowered him to continue on his destructive path. He found pleasure in deceiving others to get what he wanted. He was a habitual liar, and he took pride in gaining the trust of others.

8. Difficulty maintaining healthy relationships

He had very little friends and most of his family members avoided him. He often blamed the other party for this, but as time went on, I realized he was the problem.

9. Jealousy and possessiveness in relationships

He was very controlling and would not allow me to go anywhere without him. He put trackers on my phone without my consent and often invaded my privacy by reading my emails, diary, and other personal literature to ensure I remained faithful to him.

10. Inability to take responsibility for their actions

Every problem that occurred in our family was my fault. He never took responsibility for anything negative that happened in our home, even when we all knew it was his fault.

As an adult, your home should be a peaceful sanctuary. A place where you can escape the pressures of life. When you live with a narcissistic spouse, life becomes very dull and harsh. It is important that you recognize the characteristics of a narcissistic person early in your relationship, so you protect your life experience.

If you notice any of these signs in your significant other, I encourage you to do further research. Narcissism is an incurable mental illness which leaves the partner of a narcissist in a lifetime of misery and regret.

August 2023 Super Blue Moon Group Ritual

August 26, 2023August 26, 2023 by Auset, posted in Group Activities

Are there things you have been dreaming of that you believe are impossible to occur in this lifetime? Those things that only occur “once in a blue moon?” Well, I am here to tell you ALL things are possible during this celestial event!

On August 30, 2023, we will witness a Super Blue Moon! This magical event will occur in Pisces and packs enough cosmic energy to blur the lines between the physical and spiritual planes.

This is one event you can’t afford to miss!